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LOVE MARRIAGE VS ARRANGE MARRIAGE

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Marriage is a gamble. It all depends on the couple that how well they play the game. How well the couple manages to sail through the initial obstacles of marriage life, how much adjustments and sacrifices are they ready to make will decide the durability of the marriage.
In any marriage two individuals from altered backgrounds, mental makeup, personality attributes, with two different identities tie a bond so the conflicts and clashes of ideas, customs and visions is bound to be there but the determination of both partners to see the marriage work against all odds is important.
In a love marriage we choose a life partner of our own choice whereas in arrange marriage our parents search for an appropriate partner keeping in mind the societal rules regarding cast, family background, tenets and financial and social status of the family.
 
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In the current scenario the youngsters of our society are up for love marriages rather than going for arrange marriages. The trends of our society have changed a lot from last few years. Youngsters of today believe that understanding between the couple before marriage is essential. They think that they should meet a couple of times before marriage in order to get to know each other. In a love marriage the couple meets for limited period of time and tries to delineate their best traits to each other. According to me couples, who say that they want to meet to know each other before marriage are mistaken and living in a fool’s paradise because I don't think one can come to know everything about the other person in short meetings, or over phone conversations or mails. How can anyone claim to know the other person unless and until he/she lives with that person? How one reacts in sardonic situation, how one behaves at different hours of the day etc cannot be understood in meetings when both the partners try their level best to show only their perfect traits.
 
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The enduring base for marriage is the understanding that might not be produced promptly in arranged or love marriages but by knowing slowly about their partner.
Recent survey reveals that love marriages have more divorces than arranged marriages. I don't mean to say that one should only go for an arrange marriage and love marriage always fails, my point is; it does not matter whether it is love or arrange marriage, what matters is the commitment the two partners show in building up the relationship. Marriage is all about assimilating I of both the partners into a common WE.
It is said that everything has its pros and cons. Similarly for love marriage the problems mostly seen are caste issue, financial status and many others, whereas in arrange marriage dowry problem and status problem are common.
 
Love Marriage vs  Arranged Marriage LOVE MARRIAGE VS ARRANGE MARRIAGE
 
Actual life starts after marriage and responsibilities lie on both the partners to make the marriage work. In most of the cases love before marriage is not actual love but infatuation and attraction and when both the persons realize this after marriage, they start blaming each other. I have nothing against choice marriages but I think the decisions our wise and mature parents make and the partners they choose for us are much more appropriate. But also, no marriage is guaranteed to be successful unless the couple involved put in equal efforts and zeal to maintain the relationship. Whether it is arranged or chosen, mutual respect, trust, letting go, forgiving and understanding is all what matters. Love may overrule all the hurdles only when the couple is motivated to make the relationship work.
“All the fun starts after marriage; you learn to adjust and make sacrifices and compromises where ever elementary and try your level best to make the marriage work”
(Milan)
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Weird Animals alive on Planet Earth

Allah created this universe and made it beautiful with different species including humans. So far, with the help of science, the man has discovered enormous secrets of planet earth. But still there were a lot of things that were hidden from the naked eyes so the man used technology and found out about many species of animals that nobody has seen.

A wide range of species of flora and fauna are found on Earth, most of which aren’t even known to us, either due to their habitat or their way of living. Here is a list of the Top 10 most wonderfully weird animals on the planet earth.

Tarsiers

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Tarsiers are mostly found in Southeast Asia islands. These are little apes who mostly live in Borneo too. Physically they are 4-6 inches tall and their eyes are each the size of their brains. What makes these primates so rare is the fact that they were completely carnivorous-they eat bugs, birds, lizards, snakes and bats.

Giant Salamander

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Salamanders are small creatures which are amphibians capable of living both on land and in water. But the Giant Salamander is the largest amphibian known today as it can grow up to 6 feet long. They are usually found in ponds and brooks of China, Japan and USA.

Bumblebee Bat

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Bumblebee Bats are tiny creatures and alongside Etruscan pygmy shrew, they are in a competition to be claimed the world’s smallest mammal. Physically they are about 29 to 33 mm long in size. Unfortunately, they are surviving from the fear of distinction from the face of the earth. Bumblebee bats are now considered as one of the 12 most endangered species on the planet. It can be found in western Thailand and southeast Burma.

Leafy Sea Dragon

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This animal got its name from both its appearance as well Chinese mythology. It gives the illusion of floating seaweed with long leaf-like extensions all over the body. Their body and fur are not for thrusting itself through the water but only as a means of camouflage. The Leafy Sea Dragon pushes itself by means of a pectoral fin on the edge of its neck and a dorsal fin on its back closer to the tail end.

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AN INCREASE IN DIVORCE RATE IN PAKISTAN. WHY??

 

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For almost every couple the married life in start seems to be awesome, both the partners feel contented and blessed but as the time passes and they both get to know each other more precisely, the early happy moments seem to be replaced by the arguments and quarrels. When the conflicts between the couple become intolerable they decide to go for a divorce.

"If you fear that the both (wife and husband) may not be adept to be confined to the limits ordered by Allah The Almighty, there is no condemnation to any of them if she defrays herself (from marriage bond)" (Surah Al Baqarah)
 
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In Pakistan the divorce ratio has gone up to an alarming extent from last decade. As Pakistan is a conventional country so the word "divorce" is considered as the symbol of shame and humiliation. Previously many women who were not satisfied with their married life would not opt for divorce because of the social pressure of the society and the lack of their family support. The first thing the parents used to say when their daughter was getting married 'you have to compromise in every condition'
The girls were hesitant to go for divorce because of the 'label' attached to it but with the passage of time things are not the same anymore. Women are acquiring higher education and becoming financially independent and not the scapegoat of men anymore. The working women are less willing to compromise on worst marital relationship as they are financially independent. Though Pakistan is a male dominating society but nowadays women are fully aware of their rights and they donot condone the dominance of men anymore. Change in social setup has played a major role in changing people's mentality about female empowerment. The increase in divorce rate in our country is majorly due to the factors like financial independence of women, lack of compromise and tolerance from both sides and egotistical attitude. Money worries, recession and unemployment are also leading to family breakdowns. Statistics shows that the number of couples getting divorced has increased by 4.9% from the year 2010 to 2011.
 
WHAT MEASURES SHOULD BE TAKEN TO REDUCE DIVORCE RATES IN PAKISTAN!!
 
Although there has been a considerable rise in divorce rate in our country but the question arises that what can be done about this. The consequences of divorce are bad enough but according to some people it’s better to go for a divorce rather than staying in an awful marital relationship. Studies reveal that divorce has a lasting impact on one's physical and mental health. Early and forced marriages is one of the cause of married life destruction, it should be ceased as our religion too give the liberty to choose our life partners. Marriage is an important decision of one's life and it should not be made in a hurry. Class difference needs to be discussed here because it causes problem in the long run.
 
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Therefore, it is suggested that one should marry the person similar to his class in order to avoid future conflicts. Sometimes joint family setup is the cause of divorce as there is very less privacy there and too much interference of the third party creates problems for the couple. So if the couple can afford they should live separately to avoid further arguments and fights. In some cases career oriented women don't take their family life seriously and fails to fulfill their responsibilities properly and in some cases men too have the same issues, so time and attention should be given by both the partners in order to save their marriage.
 
Divorce & kids AN INCREASE IN DIVORCE RATE IN PAKISTAN. WHY??
Marriage is a consent signed by both sides so both the partners are responsible to make it work out for them. Sacrifice and compromise for each other is a key to a successful marriage. Hence it is concluded that mutual tolerance, compromise, patience, sacrifice can make married life easier and prevent it from destruction.
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