Why most of the Pakistanis are heading towards abroad is the basic Question arising in minds. There are a bundle of reasons behind this. First of all the youth prefer to go abroad for better future, attractive salary and also for bright career opportunities. After completing 16 years of education , no job opportunities in the market frustrates the Pakistani youth and they try to fly towards some country where they can get the jobs they deserve. In Pakistan getting a good job without any reference and contact is nearly impossible. Amateur people take the right of the skilled person; this irritates and disappoints the deserving person whereas in other countries they get all things at no cost and without any reference.
Terrorism and violence is also one of the basic reasons indeed. Pakistanis are afraid to live in their own country because here their life is at a greater risk. Bomb blasts on daily basis and lack of safety and security issues compel them to settle abroad on permanent basis. Media is playing an important role by embellishing the desires of Pakistanis to settle in abroad. It is showing a very appealing and alluring picture of abroad and it is not highlighting the problems faced by Pakistanis in foreign countries.
Corruption is quite common in almost every field of Pakistan. In our country it is considered that 'if you want to win a case in court hire a good judge rather than a good lawyer. You have to bribe someone or you have to be connected to someone to get a reasonable job'.
Almost every second individual wants to flee from a country where there is no value of talent and skills, where things are not done on merit, where people are not safe from criminals.
Situation in Pakistan is getting worse day by day due to which literate public, skilled and talented people are moving towards other countries.
If Pakistani Government don’t take immediate steps then the time is not far when there will be no expert and intellectual in Pakistan. This is a gigantic issue to be dealt with on urgent basis otherwise one day Pakistan will lose all the skilled, competent and proficient people that are the assets of our country.
Joint Family is a type of extended family composed of parents, offspring, grandparents, uncles, aunties and lot of cousins living in one house. In Pakistan previously Joint family system was the most preferred system but now it is undergoing a hefty change due to influence of media and education. In joint family system there are defined norms and values which all the members of the family have to follow. If all the members fulfill their tasks and responsibilities fairly then it is the most preferred system but unfortunately this do not happen. Both the systems whether joint or nuclear have their own advantages and disadvantages but the disadvantages seen are more.
In a joint family system lot of conflicts emerge on different issues. Research has been done in this regard and researchers indicated that disparate issues at household level cause disturbance, agitation and malaise in the society. In joint family system love and respect for elders is the most important factor and the dominating head of the family makes all decisions. Nowadays lack of tolerance, lack of compromising attitude and lack of impartial behavior is seen in most of the people. Clash of opinions of different family members on a matter result in arguments and fights.
Joint family system also creates problem in raising children. Loving relations like grandparents don't like to scold their young grandchildren, as a result it become difficult for the parents to stop their children from bad habits and wrong behaviors. The wrong support of the loving relations for wrong deeds, badly affects children's lives and careers.
The generation of today wants to marry the person of their own choice rather than their family's choice. It is really hard for the new member to adjust and accept the norms of the family which results in clash and disturbance. Also the newly married couple wants to spend their earnings independently without sharing it with the whole family. They want privacy and independence. This type of behaviors and attitude of individuals results in disorganized family.
Joint family system is a Blessing only in cases when there is equal share of money, food and other requirements among all members of family, when everyone respects others' point of views, when opinions of every member is given importance, when new bride is not taken for granted and is given the right to make decisions equally with her husband and raise her children accordingly; otherwise joint family system is considered a Curse.
I'm not against joint family system but my point of view is that ‘it is better to live separately and be happy rather than living together and staying unhappy and dissatisfied'.
Attaining consummate satisfaction in life is not impossible but the question which arises in everyone's mind is that how we can attain it, what one should do for satisfying mind. Satisfaction can only be acquired when our mind is crystal clear and free from every confusing thought. We the human are very selfish and want to lead our life according to our own will. We are satisfied, happy and at peace till things are going according to our will but when anything goes wrong we start worrying that why the hell is this happening with us, as a result our mind get disturbed and we get dissatisfied with life. Everyone wants to live a life free from obstacles and wrong doings.
Youth of today is mostly suffering from mind dissatisfaction. Their thoughts clash with each other to reach to the conclusion that how they can gain the ultimate satisfaction. They are confused that what actually they want from their lives. According to my point of view this situation occurs when you have decided to do something, you have set the goals in your life but then you are experiencing hardships in accomplishing your dreams. This leads to distracted thoughts and ultimate dissatisfaction. As they are in growing stage they don't understand that life is not a bed of flowers and they have to face many hurdles that will be against their will. Sometimes this dissatisfaction leads to trauma and mental and physical agony.
I think the real cause of dissatisfaction among youth is lack of understanding and communication gap between parents and their children. Parents compel their kids to leave their dreams, instead force them to follow theirs' footsteps; as a result conflict situation arises. If parents understand what their children want and allow and help them to achieve their goals then many conflicting situations can be avoided and kids' satisfaction level will not be affected.
As the desires of people are increasing the graph of dissatisfaction is also rising. Desires give rise to yearning, lust and other negative traits that create turmoil and anxiety in one's life. We should have goals but these goals have to be realistic and worthy of pursuit. Then we should work hard for fulfilling them but this is not important that we can get everything in our lives but the thought that at least we give it a try will satisfy our minds. We should not spoil what we have by desiring what we don't have. If we are contented with what we have, we can lead a peaceful and satisfactory life.
We should be focused, persistent and firm in taking decisions and should follow our dreams by keeping in mind our norms, values and most importantly our family nobility. If people achieve the goals in life what was decided by them then I am pretty sure that satisfaction would be the end result.
“True happiness is to enjoy the present, without concerned dependence upon the future, not to please ourselves with either hopes or fears but to rest satisfied with what we have, which is sufficient. The ample blessings of mankind are within us and within our reach. A wise man is content and satisfied with his lot, whatever it may be, without wishing for what he has not.” (Seneca)