The answer to the question “What are your goals?” can tell much about a person. Nearly, most of the time people who feel stuck in their current situation, have a feeling that they are going nowhere; in short they are spending a useless life.
It is true that through hard work you can get where you want to be in life but this can be possible only if you know where you are going. In order to succeed in any area of life you must have a goal. Setting a goal provides you a sense of direction and the ability to achieve it helps in becoming successful. Goals are a depiction of your inner desires and desires cause motivation in your life.
A ship with a clear destination in mind travels with dedication and determination and ultimately reaches the harbor. A person without a vision and destination in mind have no right to moan about “why nothing is happening” because he has not selected a destination, he can only have whatever he ask for!
It is not important that where you are standing now or what you have or have not attained in the past but the thing that counts is your willingness and enthusiasm to do something that can make your life worth living and for that there is a need of setting a clear, concise goal. By setting a goal and then working with passion to achieve it raise your self-esteem and self-respect. The ones who succeed in accomplishing their goals have a stupendous feeling of personal pride. They become more confident and contended in life. In short, clear and distinct goals are a must for every area of our lives. Success is nearly impossible without selecting a destination and setting a goal.
“The trouble with not having a goal is that you can spend your life running up and down the field and never score” (Bill Copeland)
Why most of the Pakistanis are heading towards abroad is the basic Question arising in minds. There are a bundle of reasons behind this. First of all the youth prefer to go abroad for better future, attractive salary and also for bright career opportunities. After completing 16 years of education , no job opportunities in the market frustrates the Pakistani youth and they try to fly towards some country where they can get the jobs they deserve. In Pakistan getting a good job without any reference and contact is nearly impossible. Amateur people take the right of the skilled person; this irritates and disappoints the deserving person whereas in other countries they get all things at no cost and without any reference.
Terrorism and violence is also one of the basic reasons indeed. Pakistanis are afraid to live in their own country because here their life is at a greater risk. Bomb blasts on daily basis and lack of safety and security issues compel them to settle abroad on permanent basis. Media is playing an important role by embellishing the desires of Pakistanis to settle in abroad. It is showing a very appealing and alluring picture of abroad and it is not highlighting the problems faced by Pakistanis in foreign countries.
Corruption is quite common in almost every field of Pakistan. In our country it is considered that 'if you want to win a case in court hire a good judge rather than a good lawyer. You have to bribe someone or you have to be connected to someone to get a reasonable job'.
Almost every second individual wants to flee from a country where there is no value of talent and skills, where things are not done on merit, where people are not safe from criminals.
Situation in Pakistan is getting worse day by day due to which literate public, skilled and talented people are moving towards other countries.
If Pakistani Government don’t take immediate steps then the time is not far when there will be no expert and intellectual in Pakistan. This is a gigantic issue to be dealt with on urgent basis otherwise one day Pakistan will lose all the skilled, competent and proficient people that are the assets of our country.
Joint Family is a type of extended family composed of parents, offspring, grandparents, uncles, aunties and lot of cousins living in one house. In Pakistan previously Joint family system was the most preferred system but now it is undergoing a hefty change due to influence of media and education. In joint family system there are defined norms and values which all the members of the family have to follow. If all the members fulfill their tasks and responsibilities fairly then it is the most preferred system but unfortunately this do not happen. Both the systems whether joint or nuclear have their own advantages and disadvantages but the disadvantages seen are more.
In a joint family system lot of conflicts emerge on different issues. Research has been done in this regard and researchers indicated that disparate issues at household level cause disturbance, agitation and malaise in the society. In joint family system love and respect for elders is the most important factor and the dominating head of the family makes all decisions. Nowadays lack of tolerance, lack of compromising attitude and lack of impartial behavior is seen in most of the people. Clash of opinions of different family members on a matter result in arguments and fights.
Joint family system also creates problem in raising children. Loving relations like grandparents don't like to scold their young grandchildren, as a result it become difficult for the parents to stop their children from bad habits and wrong behaviors. The wrong support of the loving relations for wrong deeds, badly affects children's lives and careers.
The generation of today wants to marry the person of their own choice rather than their family's choice. It is really hard for the new member to adjust and accept the norms of the family which results in clash and disturbance. Also the newly married couple wants to spend their earnings independently without sharing it with the whole family. They want privacy and independence. This type of behaviors and attitude of individuals results in disorganized family.
Joint family system is a Blessing only in cases when there is equal share of money, food and other requirements among all members of family, when everyone respects others' point of views, when opinions of every member is given importance, when new bride is not taken for granted and is given the right to make decisions equally with her husband and raise her children accordingly; otherwise joint family system is considered a Curse.
I'm not against joint family system but my point of view is that ‘it is better to live separately and be happy rather than living together and staying unhappy and dissatisfied'.